... and receiving a "No Thanks"
Many people - especially many women here - have abandoned
extending a polite "Thanks, but no thanks"
approach. Many started out with good intentions. But they've
found that offering this polite response can often be more
hassle than it's worth.
Some of the contacts they've rejected get all needy.
Instead of accepting that the person they first approached
was not interested, they pursue them to explain themselves.
"What's wrong with me?" "If you only
give me a chance I could make you like me." Chemistry
is a uniquely individual thing. Chasing down those who
reject us to explain tells us more about ourselves than
we could ever learn. After all, what that person may not
have liked could be something about us that another will
really desire.
Stil other people who receive a "No Thanks"
message get angry. Several women have reported within
the pages of the Advice Column that after being polite in
turning down an offer, they are bombarded with abusive
emails, calling them names and suggesting they're
not honest. Just because a person may like a particular
activity does not me that they like that activity with you
or me.
So while a "No Thanks" message would be a welcome
addition for most of us - it sure beats not knowing whether
they even received our message - it is more than just bad
manners that have turned people away from applying this
common courtesy.
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