RE: Does a lap dance matter?
Well not sure if this is still an issue or not, but I'll
give my two cents.
If it's still bothering you, you need to figure out
what part really hurts. That he did it after you asked him
not to or if it's just that he actually had a nude girl
give him a lap dance? There might have been more to it, since
it was a private dance or might have been only a private lap
dance that happened in the moment. Only he will know the
truth, and you need to figure out whats bothering you.
You also need to figure out from him why he did it. Was it something
he had done before? Does he do things drunk that he wouldnt
do normally? If he does things drunk that he wouldnt do normally
then I think you need to realize this and decide if you will
be able to deal with it.
No matter what you need to figure out if he's just going
to do whatever "happens in the moment" and either
except him as whom he is or brake up. If you try to change him,
or he says he'll never do it again... Well if he does
things alot in "the heat of the moment" he's
probly just that way.
Only he can actually decide to take responsibility for
his actions and take control of them. He did tell you that
it happened so you mean something to him. He may have made
a mistake and regret it because he didnt think it was that
big of a deal until he say your reaction. Love, trust AND
respect can concur all, one without the other will only
drive you crazy. Good luck and hope it works out for you.
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