advice to any one who has been hurt
If it's still bothering you, you need to figure out
what part really hurts. That he did it after you asked him
not to or if it's just that he actually had a nude girl
give him a lap dance? There might have been more to it, since
it was a private dance or might have been only a private lap
dance that happened in the moment. Only he will know the
truth, and you need to figure out whats bothering you.
You need to figure out why he did it and whether or not it was
something he had done before? Does he do things drunk that
he wouldnt do normally? If he does things drunk that he wouldnt
do normally then I think you need to realize this and decide
if you will be able to deal with it.
Figure out if he's just going to do whatever "happens
in the moment" and either except him as whom he is or
brake up. If you try to change him, or he says he'll never
do it again... Well if he does things alot in "the heat
of the moment" he's probly just that way.
Only he can actually decide to take responsibility for
his actions and take control of them. He did tell you that
it happened so you mean something to him. He may have made
a mistake and regret it because he didnt think it was that
big of a deal until he say your reaction. Love, trust AND
respect can concur all, one without the other will only
drive you crazy. Good luck and hope it works out for you.
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