Creative Variations on First-Time Encounters (for the brave of heart)
The first-time meeting ideas Im going to offer here are
definitely not for everyone. But for a few of you more adventurous
souls who have mastered the traditional techniques (e.g.,
meeting for conversation at a coffee shop, etc.) and perhaps
have a somewhat kinky stranger-encounter fantasy or
fetish, these idea might just be your cup of tea.
Before getting into the nitty-gritty, let me briefly say
a few words about my own personality, which might explain
why I would bother to think about this stuff at all, and add
some perspective to the ideas themselves.
I am not afraid to meet people in real life. Given a choice
between emailing or chatting on-line, I will choose real
life without a moments hesitation. I should also mention
that I am not the least bit bored with just meeting in a public
place for conversation, etc. The simple act of meeting
a stranger in real life who Ive previously only encountered
in cyberspace is a thrill in itself and really requires
no extra spice to make it interesting. Still, if I happen
to find someone looking for that little extra oomph, I have
a few ideas to offer.
I should also mention that I am just as much interested in
friendship with erotically-minded people as I am in actual
erotic play, so when given an opportunity to meet someone,
whether male, female, couple, or group, I jump at the chance
even if Ive never seen their pic. In fact, purposely NOT
asking to see someones pic can actually add some interesting
options to first encounter scenarios (as I will discuss
later). Furthermore and this is going to seem shockingly
weird to most of you I dont really even need to be attracted
to someone in order to have an enjoyable erotic encounter
with them. (Of course I should point out that an "erotic
encounter" need not always involve "having
sex".) This attitude might have something to do with
me being a man.
On average I think there are more male sluts than female
sluts, and I am definitely a slut. There is within me a sort
of unconditional love of women a love of the goddess
as it were a love of the femaleness of Being a love of Eros
for its own sake that kicks in when I meet a woman under the
auspices of potential erotic play. For me, this built-in
chemistry is enough to turn any encounter into an erotically-charged
rendezvous assuming, of course, the woman it willing
to play along. So, in light of this, lets see what can happen
when slut meets slut.
Most of my ideas fall under the broad category of role-play
scenarios. Heres how it works. While arranging to meet
in person, one or both of you can suggest a fantasy scenario.
Now of course role-play scenarios are not uncommon for
erotic encounters, but what will seem whacky to most people
is the idea of doing this for a first-time encounter. See
if you can find a scenario that is of interest to both of you.
Since these are first-time encounter you should AVOID
scenarios that could be potentially dangerous, such as
meeting in a dark alley or a remote area, etc. I enjoy a good
thrill, but there is no point in taking foolish risks.
One relatively safe but fun approach involves V&E
(voyeurism and exhibitionism). For example, one or both
of you can wear clothes that can be revealing in a discreet
way, like short skirts, low-cut top, baggy shorts, no underwear,
etc. Plan to meet in a public place, but dont greet each
other right away. You should each know what the other looks
like, what you will be wearing, and other details such as
Ill be on a bench near the fountain or whatever. Catch
each other eye, then...well, lets just say that discreet
for your eyes only maneuvers in a public setting can be
a major turn-on for V&E folks, especially when they
dont actually know each other. You simply pretend that
this is a purely chance encounter, then follow your erotic
instincts in a relatively unscripted way from this point
on. Or, if you prefer, you could work out a bit more of the
script, perhaps involving some discreet fondling, or
perhaps play out an entire character role (Im a secret
agent or Im a nurse, would you like a bed bath? etc.)
As is common sense with any role-play, you will want to define
some clear way to tell when the play needs to be abruptly
ended, or when the rules suddenly need to be changed to accommodate
some unplanned circumstance. In most cases this neednt
be anything more complex than simply saying Ok, thats
enough play; lets just talk? or something of that sort.
If you both have really warped minds and your scenario is
more complex, like multiply-nested roles, or something
with an S&M or B&D flavor), then you may need a carefully-chosen,
unambiguous code word. I strongly urge you not to try complex
scenario of this sort on a first-time encounter unless
you have both already had a fair amount of experience with
this sort of thing in more traditional settings, and even
then it is probably not well-advised.
Here is a variation that women should not consider, but
some men might try. Typically by the time you get to the point
of meeting in person, you have exchanged pics and when arranging
to meet, you each have information about what you are wearing,
etc. In certain cases, however, I would be willing to let
the woman remain anonymous while I take upon myself the
full burdens and risks of exposure. Ive never done this
but, under certain circumstances I might be willing to
meet a woman without ever seeing her pic, and without having
any way to recognize her at the rendezvous site. This gives
her the opportunity to check me out and decide if she really
wants to go through with the meeting. This is what some people
would call playing games in a very negative way (in contrast
to being upfront, fair and candid). But with the right sort
of attitude, this odd scenario can be turned into a more
positive game. If the woman decides that she does want to
meet, she could begin a V&E scenario as described above.
She could position herself within your line of sight and
expose a little something interesting. Once your eyes
meet, you can flirt from a distance for a while or even play
out a pre-arranged scenario.
I know how crazy some of these ideas will sound to most people,
and I am certainly not recommending any of these ideas for
your average first-time encounters. But if adventures
of this sort sound appealing, and if you happen to discover
a special connection with a like-minded soul in cyberspace...well,
who knows, it might be worth a try.
|
