Learn to Accept Rejection
I don't know if it's a common problem, but a lot
of the guys I talk to on here have a big problem with rejection.
A lot of guys beg for a "not interested" or a "no
thanks" when they email or chat with me, but I have
had so many bad experiences that I have a hard time with it.
Also, the pure number of people who email me is amazing.
I can get up to 300 emails in one day (it's happened before).
I can't possibly respond to so many emails.
Guys and Gals, if you are rejected, please just deal with
it quietly. If you cause problems, I guarantee that life
is only gonna be harder for you.
One local guy saw that I lived near by. He read that I have
a husband and a steady boyfriend and ASSUMED that I was a
sex-maniac. He asked if I liked sex. I said, sure I do. He
said, well then, where are we gonna meet tonight? I said
umm, I have school first thing in the morning, I can't
meet tonight. The next thing he did was to try and tell every
person in the chat room that I didn't really like sex
and that I was a fake, someone who wasn't really looking
to ever meet people. He couldn't even accept my being
busy. I was offended and told all my friends on Adult FriendFinder about
him. He no longer has a chance to meet with the 30+ women that
I consider friends. Because he couldn't deal with
me being busy, he lost the opportunity to try those 30 other
women.
Think about how big of a risk you are taking when you get upset.
I know one guy who threatened to tell everyone that this
girl knew, including her boss, that she was on Adult FriendFinder unless
she had sex with him. She was smart and decided that she wasn't
going to be pressured. He never had the nerve to tell people
about her, and she's warned every girl she sees about
him. He really suffered in the end.
I have formatted my auto-reply to politely say, "Once
again, these are my specific requirements, ___blah___blah___blah,
and if you don't meet them, then please don't expect
a reply." I think that some guys are too bullheaded
to accept your requirements the first time they see them
in your profile, thinking "I'm different, I
look younger than my age, I really don't look that fat,
I'm not really that uneducated, I'm a good looking
guy, or whatever" But when they get an email with your
name on it that lists those requirements again and says
that if they don't meet them, they won't hear from
you, they are more likely to accept it.
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