secrets of dating younger women
1) Be Cool, Dude.
When most older guys meet a younger woman that
they feel attracted to, they immediately begin to
act WEIRD.
They stop acting like "themselves".
Now, women don't know what you're like "normally",
but they can tell INSTANTLY if you're NOT ACTING LIKE
YOURSELF.
Us guys do all kinds of subtle and not-so-subtle
little things when we're feeling nervous... and these
things give women the HEEBIE JEEBIES!
So be cool.
Relax.
Don't act like a Wussbag.
2) Treat her like a BRATTY LITTLE SISTER.
Now that you're being "cool", take it to
the NEXT
LEVEL...
Use one of my favorite personal techniques, and
treat her like your BRATTY LITTLE SIS.
Tease her.
Make fun.
It's OK, go for it.
Say all the things you never had a chance to say
when you were a freshman.
Now's your big chance!
And don't worry about it when she plays "fake
mad".
Just turn it up some more.
Oh, and call her on everything she does or says
that's immature.
I can't go into all the reasons why this is a great
idea, but it is. You keep your power, you have all
kinds of opportunities to be Cocky & Funny, and you
can always keep things interesting and challenging.
Oh, and it's COMPLETELY different than the way most
Wussies treat her... which is good.
3) Don't try to follow or get her to lead.
Women in general are not attracted to men who don't
take the lead... and younger women are no exception.
In fact, younger women have less experience in
life, so trying to get them to lead and tell you what
they want you to do is just a horrible idea.
Don't do it.
You lead. You decide where you're going. You make
the rules.
If you try to make her the boss, you'll run her
off faster than you can say "I touch myself".
4) Don't try to take advantage of the situation.
Most attractive young women have had at LEAST one
"icky older guy" that "tried something"
with her.
Younger women are HYPER-ALERT when it comes to
sketchy behavior.
If you try to take advantage of the situation or
try to "make a move" too early, you'll most
likely
signal to her that you're a "perv" and that
you aren't
to be trusted.
Lean back.
Chill.
Give her room.
When you walk down the street with her, bump into
her and push her AWAY from you.
Tell her not to walk too close to you... tell her
that other people might think something.
If you're alone with her in your living room, don't
sit right next to her.
If she touches you while talking, don't touch her
back... or even make fun of it and say "Keep your hands
off the goods".
5) Don't intrude on or interfere with her life.
You must remember that younger women have lives
of their own.
Often they're very close to their families, and
they're unsure of how their families would respond
if they found out that their pride and joy daughter
was dating an older guy.
Remember, she just got FREE of the overbearing
father... and she doesn't need a new one.
Don't call her at work, don't show up to see her
unexpectedly, and don't embarrass her.
If you want to make an attractive young woman perform
magic (the instant disappearing act), just interfere
with her life.
She's free, so let her be free. Encourage it, even.
Don't interfere.
6) Let her come to you... don't chase her.
If you want to make friends with a cat, the best
tactic is to IGNORE IT.
Cats are interesting creatures.
Have you ever noticed that if you chase a cat,
it will run... but if you sit and ignore it, you'll
soon find yourself pushing it off of your lap?
Same goes for younger women.
Like I just mentioned, younger women have often
just "escaped" from controlling parents,
structured
lives, and zero freedom.
If she's attracted to you, it's not because you're
creating the environment that she just left... it's
because you represent something different.
You'll find that if you call her all the time and
chase her, she'll be harder to get a hold of, and less
likely to continue to see you.
If you let her go, let her live her life, and make
yourself more scarce, you'll be more likely to have
her pursuing YOU.
Be the man that she's always dreamed about, and
then don't chase her.
7) EXPECT her to change.
If you're dating a woman between the ages of 18
and 23, you need to remember that her life is probably
going to change DRAMATICALLY over the next few years.
You need to keep an open mind, and not try to restrict
or hinder her options.
You need to expect and even encourage her to grow,
change, and become all she can be.
The reality is that the chances are SLIM that she's
going to be with you in a few years.
In fact, the chances are slim that she's even going
to be the same person in a few years.
Get over it, and be OK with it.
Challenge her to grow, achieve, and be her best...
and don't accept second-class behavior from her.
But she's going to change, so expect it.
8) Be CHIVILROUS.
Most younger women have had VERY FEW men in their
lives who even know what the word "Chivalry"
means.
If you're one of those men, then you need to LEARN
what the word means.
Opening doors, walking on the outside of the curb,
and pulling out chairs makes a BIG impression on younger
women.
When you combine a masculine, powerful presence
with chivalry, you will stand out and make yourself
VERY intriguing and attractive.
9) Stay totally calm in the face of drama.
Younger women often have a lot of drama happening
around them, and they often act dramatic.
I could write an entire book about all the things
that a young woman has going on around her that are
TOTALLY UNSTABLE...
And the most influential one is the other people
in her life.
If she freaks out about something, don't let it
get to you.
Stay cool and calm.
Don't try to fix all her problems, and don't try
to stand in for her dad.
She isn't looking for advice, so don't give it
to her (unless she asks seriously, and in a non-emotional
tone).
One of the things that makes you attractive as
an older man is the stability that you bring.
So BRING IT.
10) Be conscious of how often you see her and speak
with her.
Younger women are less in-control of their emotions...
and can become attached more quickly and easily.
The "trigger" for a woman "becoming attached"
is
how often you see her and talk to her.
If you want to trigger the "relationship" mechanism,
spend a lot of time with her.
If you DON'T want to trigger those emotions, you
need to limit the time you spend with her.
As a rule of thumb, don't see her more than once
a week, and don't talk to her more than once or twice
a week unless you want her to start becoming very
attached to you.
And I don't care what you SAY... it's the AMOUNT
OF TIME you spend with her that makes this determination.
Trust me.
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