RE: I am not a SLUT!!!
I agree, whole heartedly. If you get to know someone first,
and actually say "NO" to people, you are not
a slut.
I have had somewhere between 40 and 50 women in my life, I
have turned down people. Many times, though who you thought
was right turns into a wrong choice. Some things you find
out almost immeadeately, others you discover later on,
If you are not compatable, or you partner is posessive/jelous/only
concerned about themself while making love/etc you have
to drop them.
Just because you advertise on a site that drops the pretense
of "looking for friends" does not mean you are
a slut. I have been blocked while chatting with several
women on this site when I answered how many people I have
been with. Do the math, sexually active for 15 years and
(say) 45 people, that works out to one every 4 months. I had
been with one for 4 years and another for 2, several for maybe
6 months, the rest were absolute duds and only lasted a month
or 2. 3 were one night stands, they were out to get some and
move on - my mistake. Most of the relationships I have been
in have ended (including my marriage and my X-fiancee)
because my partner decided that they found some one they
liked better, or had more to offer. They had no problem with
the sex, they just found someone more appealing to them,
or I droped them because they were too self absorbed or "Fing
anything that moved".
Having had more than a couple of sex partners, or advertising
on an adult site, does not make you a slut or a player. It makes
you a person that can not find a real match or some one that
is trying to find a real match.
You have to take everything on a case by case basis.
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