What do you do when a girlfriend has angst over your children
I find myself in a very frustrating situation. I am in love
with a widow with two kids and I have two children that live
with me fulltime[their mom has better things to do 1000
miles away] My GF feels anxious about the possibility that
my daughter may be headed for trouble[she is pretty unmotivated
in school and needs constant prodding to get things done]
On the one hand I appreciate my GF's concern over my
daughter's welfare and am willing to listen to her
ideas---but on the other hand--my daughter has been through
a lot[treated pretty poorly by her mother]and is doing
pretty well all things considered. Am I nuts to continue
my relationship with a woman who has been openly critical
of my past and present parenting choices?? I have dated
her exclusively for 30 months--thought she was the woman
of my dreams and was ready to get married again a year and
a half ago. Her reaction/attitude towards my daughter
lately gives me great pause. My GF wants to move ahead and
take it to the next step somedays---BUT her comments and
reactions tell me that she is not comfortable with my whole
package[2 kids and me][I also have a nice package!]
I used to think I wanted my GF as a partner to help raise my
kids--I have doubts somedays about whether she would be
willing to "invest herself" into my children's
future. I have been the more giving partner from the outset
and am coming to grips with the relationship for what it
is.
I am close to calling it quits somedays--finding some willing
playmates when I have time and forget about "jumping
into the frying pan" again. I have been divorced 2x[once
by choice] and have been divorced for almost 2 years. What
do you think I should consider?? Avoiding a life of hell
with a woman I love --but who can't quite accept things
and enjoy OR hang in there and hope she see's the light??
Lately I'm getting pretty down over it not going where
I wanted it to and am thinking I'm not meant to be a married
guy.
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