Before You Get Started
Some women seem to have an incredibly difficult time reaching
orgasm during intercourse; that is if they are able to orgasm
at all. The most common reason for this is that they dont
know their own bodies. Society has had this brilliant effect
of instilling into our minds from childhood that masturbation
is sinful, wrong and dirty. Well, everyone is entitled
to his or her own opinion, but all common sense dictates
that this couldnt be farther from the truth.
Thanks to this misconception, many people, especially
women, have stopped themselves from learning their bodies,
thereby reducing the chances of being able to fully enjoy
sex. It is hard for many women to unlearn all that they have
been taught, and they often feel that touching themselves
does not bring pleasure. There is some truth behind that
- they are not lying, they do not feel pleasure. However,
this is not because there is no pleasure to be felt, just
that they have been indirectly taught to not enjoy it. Getting
beyond this will take time and patience, so never rush your
partner.
If your woman has never had an orgasm (this is often the case
if they say, I think Ive had one), you will want to refer
to the female masturbation article to get things started.
Learning to please a woman who cant orgasm on her own is
extremely difficult, so I highly suggest that you start
with getting her to play with herself, and allow her to learn
how her body reacts to different stimulus.
The last note has to do with your approach. Orgasms cant
be forced, and the more pressure you put on her to cum, the
less likely it is to happen. Take things slow, learn techniques,
experiment with them and find what works. If you start getting
frustrated when you arent seeing results, it will show,
and unfortunately make it even harder. Sex is supposed
to be fun and enjoyable - as soon as you make it too serious,
it takes away from the pleasure!
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