How To Be A Masculinist II: The "Real" Road Map
Okay, Okay, we've had a long hard slog together through
the mud of psychoanalysis. We discovered why we need Masculinists,
because a large percentage of men have been raised exclusively
by mothers, and we have a culture that has been emphasizing
as of late trends that appeal mostly to women. Now, let us
actually go into the steps of the journey that is Masculinity.
There is a way brothers, don't lose hope! (This is true
for you too ladies, who have long awaited the return of a
"real" man...just hang on!) Once again let
me say that the focus here is balance, if you think the best
way to gesture to a woman is with the back of your hand, or
with showing her the back of your head when it's bowed,
then you should seriously close this article out right
now and seek someone with initials before and after their
name.( as in therapy)
For the rest of us, here's what I believe should be the
guidebook of Masculinists.
He knows that he has been "programmed" in the
past: You have always known there was something not quite
right with the world, something you couldn't put your
finger on, like a splinter in the back of your mind. Yeah,
that splinter is the subtle signature of active feminism.
See, feminists know that the squeaky wheel gets the grease.
They have stood up time and time again, and made some reasonable
and just arguments for their own equality, they know how
to "empower" themselves, and get at every possible
opportunity. Most men have accepted that women deserve
these chances, and can do what men can do. The mistake though,
is not that women are more empowered, but that men have become
TOO accepting and accommodating of feminist assertiveness.
For 25-30 years, men have seen women rise higher and higher
and have more authority and support. Your single mother,
your school's predominancy of female teachers, probably
atleast one female manager or boss that supervises over
you, on your TV dramas with the female police captain or
DA or judge, all with only male subordinates. All around,
men growing up see women in authority and the subtle implication
is "defer your will to women, she's smarter and
knows what she's doing, you''ll just end
up screwing it all up, like civilization." You might
have your misgivings about your wife or girlfriend's
decisions sometimes, afterall you're both human
and make mistakes she's certainly wrong too, and as
much as you are. But, most men don't want to be labeled
a "pig" or "obnoxious" so they back
off, and apologize to her, even if they're right. A
masculinist knows he has this programmed reflex and does
what he can inside to fight it. He speaks his mind, when he's
wrong AND when he's right.
Which brings me to my next point.
He knows he is a man and is not ashamed of it: Many feminists,
whether consciously or unconsciously, deplore the common
practices and traits (sports, competition, power, camaraderie,
tinkering with cars and power tools, enjoying sex, toughness,
overconfidence, burping, farting) of men. It's as
if they instinctually or consciously see themselves as
more cultured and refined than their male counterparts,
or "the moral high ground." Sometimes this
may be the case, and any man can stand to learn a few things
from women about hygiene, fashion, and manners. But, that
doesn't mean he should begin to believe that he's
really a "Neanderthal" because he likes playing
poker with his buddies on Friday nights, or likes seeing
beautiful women naked in a porno movie or causally dating
several women at a time. A Masculinist is not a BS artist,
he knows what he likes and is upfront and unappoligetic
with the women in his life about it. (well, some things you
don't want to tell to Mom lol.) Besides, women have
some nasty vices too, gossiping, ganging up on a woman who's
doing well with the hot guy ("Look at that cheap slut,
why do they ALWAYS get the cute ones??") The sexes
are equal in this regard, and a Masculinist will be happy
illustrate this anytime, anywhere. He's proud to
be a man, and has every right to be.
He doesn't " cut n'run" when the tests
and the ultimatums come: I'm not a huge country music
fan, but there is a song in particular that I believe expresses
this point brilliantly, "I'm Gonna Miss Her"
by Brad Paisley. For those not familiar with it, the song's
about a guy who loves to fish and his wife says if he goes to
the lake there that day she'll be gone by noon...so
he says he'll miss her when he gets back from the lake
shore! I think this is a wonderful illustration of this
plank in the Masculinist platform for two reasons. One,
if you're a man and you really love to bowl, hunt, fish,
a cigar aficionado, eating meat, working a low paying but
rewarding job, whatever, and that just because SHE thinks
it's stupid, is pro-gun control, is ambitiously wannabe
high class, is in PETA, has allergies, or is a vegen, that
you MUST stop doing what you love. It was your life long before
she was in it, and you should be willing to stand up for things
like this if you want to stay in charge of it. This brings
up the other point, if you stand your ground, you had better
be prepared for the consequences. Sure, she might just
be "testing" or "bluffing." Then
again, she may really think anyone who can eat and enjoy
a 16oz chicken fried steak is an animal sadist. I personally
believe with fervor that any woman who forces you to make
a choice like that, knowing how important that something
is to you, probably never loved you in the first place, could
just enjoy manipulating you, and/or is looking for an "escape
clause" out of the relationship. Ask yourself, "Is
the great times/sex that you get with this ONE SOLITARY
woman really worth giving up part of who you are for?"
I don't think any woman is worth that price. Besides,
there is always another opportunity...somewhere. A Masculinist
is his own man, and is willing to go "lone wolf"
from time to time rather than allow a woman to completely
change him. He's not desperate, and doesn't define
who he is by who he's with.
He doesn't need to look over his shoulder: Pure and
simple, a masculinist is not the jealous type. He is who
he is, he likes himself, and if a woman is there with him,
she probably does too. He doesn't walk with his head
down counting tiles, He strides confidently looking people
in the eye, thus intimidating guys who usually don't
and forcing them all to acknowledge his presence. he doesn't
walk behind her shuffling his feet, tripping because of
her smaller strides and following her lead. He walks BESIDE
her, setting his own pace and she can choose to keep up or
not. He doesn't need to put a constant, yet affectionate
"deathgrip" on her hand or around her shoulders.
He is cool enough to loosen up and let her go so she can find
her own adventures while they're on an outing, then
let her know she's been missed when they reunite and
leave. A Maculinist doesn't stress about other men,
his personality and poise is magnetic enough to keep her
coming back for more. Besides, her stories afterwards
about the "sleazies" who hit on her are usually
a great laugh!
He steps up to the plate, and doesn't cop out: Lastly,
If I haven't made it clear enough before, it is not all
the fault of women that there aren't enough real men
right now. In fact, I'd say the biggest blame in this
issue lies with MEN themselves. That's right, you
heard me. We have for far too long been passive in asserting
our right to be men, and even more importantly, have not
been there teaching boys and young men how to be men in the
first place. I remember seeing on a prime-time news show
a story about juvenile male African elephants in this open
wildlife preserve in Tanzania. They kept breaking out
raiding nearby villages causing all kinds of havoc and
even mistreating the female elephants in the park. The
solution? They brought in just a handful of mature African
bull elephants from other preserves, and within a few months,
the juvenile rampages disappeared. See, the young male
elephants had never been around adult males or had been
taught the proper behavior of a male elephant in a herd.
The bulls showed them there were rules and limits, and put
down their rebellions quickly. In short, boys need strong
men in their lives, to teach them to be men, so that they don't
become too emasculated allowing women to completely dominate,
and so they understand what will and won't be tolerated.
A Masculinist never leaves a woman with his responsibility.
He knows no one is a more important example in his son's
life than him. When his boy screws up, the Masculinist father
doesn't just hand off his son to mommy or the school
guidance councilor fussing about self-esteem issues,
He gives his boy a whipping, or some other very hard hitting,
direct punishment. He draws the line in the concrete early
(forget sand), and makes sure it stays there. He knows any
"man" who dodges such responsibilities is
no man at all.
Bottom line, once you rediscover your manly roots through
this simple program, you have to stick with it so the next
generation gets the message in Technicolor. By all of us
becoming Masculinists we can make life more pleasant for
ourselves, but also make it fun for the womenfolk too lol.
I AM MAN, HEAR ME SNORE! lol ;)
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