Thoughts on Poly / Triad
All - this is a crosspost from the "Building Relationships"
board but I didn't get much feedback so I'm reposting
here. I appologize to those who already saw it and thanks
to those who replied.
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OK, just to make things clear, here's the definition
of "Triad Relationship": Visualize a triangle
with all three points joined by connecting lines. This
symbol pictures the kind of relationship where three people
share intimacy with each other in any combination. Triads
consist of two same sex partners and one single sex partner;
one male and two females or one female and two males. They
may share intimacy together as a threesome or as a pair,
including the same sex partners.
With that said, let me explain my situataion. I'm M/31
and still love my ex. In fact I see us getting back together.
Problem is, she's disabled in a wheelchair. That doesn't
bother me. Never has. The problem is that I want children,
and she can't have any - or rather I won't let her
b/c it may kill her.
I propose that we find another woman to live with us as a "partner".
This 2nd woman would bear children instead. Now, I'm
not proposing that I would keep the 2nd woman tied in the
bedroom in the corner and make her be a baby machine. Quite
the contrary. I think the 3 of us would enter into a loving
relationship - between all of us.
I would probably marry my ex and then see if there is any legal
way to allow the 2nd woman to change her name to mine w/o the
wedding.
The children would live with us and would basically have
3 parents. I know it could seem strange at first for the children,
but I think they could adjust.
By now you're saying - what about adoption? I know.
I know. I know. There are lots of very deserving children
that need homes. I am just having a hard time accepting that
I wouldn't be carrying on the blood line in my family.
I wouldn't be opposed to adoption for a 2nd or 3rd child.
I've given this a lot of thought and now it doesn't
seem like it's all that outrageous.
Any thoughts?
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