Your article is EXACTLY why there's a "Saying 'No Thanks'" forum....
It's not the forum that's 'stupid',
it's the people that don't bother to read someone
else's profile, to read it thoroughly, to fill out
their own profile with no more than generalities such as
'looking for nice' person, etc. I have very seldom
written a 'No thanks.', 'Thanks but no thanks.'
or anything else back. At one time even Standard members
could write emails up to a certain number a day, and later
up to 2 emails a day (including replies)...but why should
you or any other male demand that I respond when they have
obviously not taken the time to read my profile, all the
way through, after I took so much time and energy and thought
into writing out exactly who and what I was along with who
and what I needed/wanted? Or worse yet, those who read the
profile and then totally ignored any up to all of my stated
'no negotiation' preferences, such as NO married/otherwise
attached men? Now a Standard member can reply, once, to
a particular email, but again, I am not going to waste my
time in replying to anyone who obviously has not read my
profile and/or who thinks they HAVE to be 'the exception'.
My profile specifically states what is or isn't considered
something I am willing to compromise on. Also, I have an
auto-reply, and it states right off for those hard-of-understanding
people what they should have already found out if they'd
bothered to read my profile. I do appreciate all responses
and interest, but Adult FriendFinder states in their site info that Standard
members have limits; however, even if I could send out more
emails, 'compatible' means what I entered into
my profile as that, just as 'incompatible' means
those things I said NO to in my profile -- therefore, if you
are incompatible and either didn't read my profile
and/or ignored my preferences, you will receive that auto-reply
and nothing else. I refuse to state something over and over
again when one of the main preferences in my profile is INTELLIGENCE.
As for your 50 emails and 50 winks with one response, did
you actually read the profiles of any of those 50 people?
Did you read the profiles all the way through, including
any extras that they filled out such as surveys? Did you
write to someone with a profile that basically already
told you that you were NOT compatible, such as if they have
definite requirements (body, privates, eye color or whatever).
Remember, a person's requirements may seem shallow
or whatever to someone ELSE, BUT it is still THAT person's
PERSONAL PREFERENCES and as such to be respected for that
if nothing else. As for the winks, were the winks sent out
to 50 other profiles, without an email? Standard members
can not write to someone that does not write to them first.
Some people don't realize how to pull up winks or who
has been looking at their profile, either.
As for it "would be nice to get 50 emails back saying
no-thanks but thats not how it works on this site.",
that's not how it works on ANY site of this type. Some
people complain if they don't get any response, others
if they only get the auto-response, and others if they get
a response but they didn't like it! I use the auto-reply
feature, and it RE-states what my profile already did.
It basically says that you should have read my profile,
all the way through; and if you didn't and/or if you
did and you were clearly incompatible (such as married
and/or otherwise attached) that the auto-response would
be the ONLY response. I do not have the time to respond to
those people who obviously didn't take the time to
read my profile (and to understand that everyone has preferences,
and that hardly ever to never does anyone become an 'exception');
even if I had the time, I do not see where it's my 'duty'
or whatever to state, AGAIN, what I already stated in my
profile and then again in my auto-reply. The person that
disregards someone's personal preferences is basically
thinking with their sex drive and not with their brains,
so there's no way I'm making time to respond to
someone who can't understand what they've already
been told at least TWICE.
You also didn't say what you did or did not put in your
own profile. I looked up your profile, and you come off as
adolescent and way too full of yourself ("hahaha"?
Where were all the 'jokes' YOU were laughing at?).
You posted a picture that shows you from your neck to your
waist...what is THAT supposed to show? It does NOT show
character, it doesn't even give a person an idea of
your body type, and just because you offer to send more pictures
possibly what does that mean? All you mentioned in your
profile is that you like sex (duh), an overall scenario
(that you got from a magazine?), and a fantasy about where
you'd like to have sex. You took the time to list your
favorite television shows, movies & bands but didn't
bother to fill out more for ideal person then more places
you'd like to screw at and what you want her to wear?
Please, that wasn't even enough to write into a 'mag'
with! You didn't even bother to fill in your sexual
orientation, and you expect those cheap 'jokes'
to make an impression? Oh, please, enough of generalities...a
profile is basically a personal resume, so at least spend
the necessary time to fill one out, thoroughly, including
extra profile questions -- and none of that 'prefer
not to say' crap unless it's something like religion!
Getting the picture here? Oh, and about pictures...post
some decent ones, because what are you hiding since you
selected single? I personally don't care if married
people, cheating or not, post one, because I am not interested
in anyone that is married and/or otherwise involved. For
those who are single/unattached, however, I personally
(and the majority on this site) want to see a picture. The
pictures, clothed, should show their face close up with
nothing blocked out so someone can get an idea about a sense
of humor and all, and the second picture should show their
entire body so they can get an idea about their bearing.
Most people are not looking for someone who is 'good
looking', but they are looking for someone who is 'attractive'
to them. By the way, the majority of women also look for some
type of indication that the person writing the profile
can form a sentence with correctly spelled words -- it goes
to show intelligence and that the person took the time and
thought to fill out a profile the RIGHT way. It's also
just plain easier to read when someone uses periods and
'little' things like that.
So your type of question is EXACTLY why Adult FriendFinder has a forum titled
"Saying 'No Thanks'"; some people
still don't understand the basics of a site such as
this. When the majority of men understand what the majority
of women are actually seeking (and then actually at least
make an effort to meet those needs/requirement...such
as actually reading a profile and understanding it) then
there will be no need for a forum such as this. Until then
(if that ever happens), there is a GREAT need for a forum
just like this one.
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