Battle Of The Sexes
I belong to a group, which meets twice a
week. This is not a quilters group, nor a social group, but
a group of women who have relationship issues. We are all
veterans of the US military who for one reason or another
have come to find themselves in the care of the others in
the group. We are a support group.
If it pertains to a relationship, we cover it. Lately, weve
been covering the differences in the conversational styles
of men and women. By conversing, women seek to gain intimacy
and acceptance from the other person. Men speak only to
inform. Examples were given: women tell of what was said
by others, maybe at work, to share her world with the man
in order to gain intimacy. Men only want to hear the logistics
of her day, for example: the progress of a project. He will
tune out or become agitated if she goes on, at length, about
how her coworkers did this or that, or little anecdotes.
Men on the other hand, tell it like it is; his day was fine
or good. Women see this kind of reply as
an insult. A way for the man to show dominance in the conversation.
The writer also went on to say that girls, growing up, dont
bully or criticize. I wonder what world
the writer lived in, because it wasnt the one I grew
up in! I was a bully from pre-school to third grade! Most
of the group agreed that they too had a different childhood.
What you must remember is that the book from which we are
getting this information was written for MEN who suffer
from PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), probably
BY a man.
All right, I do buy into the notion that men and women have
different conversational styles, but to go on about how
women DONT want to talk about sports, military
stuff or jock itch (for that matter) is ridiculous! One
of my favorite topics in military affairs. And on the subject
of sports, I can keep up with most of the men! Plus, I dont
interject any unnecessary emotion!
Women and men will never totally understand each other,
nor would they want to!
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