Is there such a thing as a great lover? Is "kissing and telling bad?"
To be honest there is no such thing as a great lover. I have
heard a great deal of men boast about their abilities in
the bedroom. I am going to give an example of this that works
perfectly from a real life experience.
The second woman I ever got to get heavily involved with
was a very beautiful looking Barbie doll. She was a VERY
loud woman during any kind of sexual play (Meaning she was
one of those gals who said what did or did not feel good, faster,
slower, harder and that kind of thing).
The second year I had known her she finally had sex with a
guy. That next day the dumbass was going around camp bragging
that he had gotten to have her and that he gave her a awesome
time. It took me all I could to keep my mouth shut cause I knew
darn well that it was not him who did a good job it was her who
told him what to do and he did as told.
That does not mean he wasnt good, what it means was it was
a team effort. She gave the direction and he followed it
like a good and true lover should do.
We often think of submission and domination only in terms
of BDSM. However that is not really correct, all sex involves
some kind of domination and submission. A good lover follows
the direction of his partner. And when it is the partners
turn he or she follows what the other wants.
The worst part is as stated above many people specifically
men go around bragging about how good they are. That is one
of the aspects covered under the dont kiss and tell.
Sex really is a team effort and should not involve one
of the partners taking the glory for what the two of you
did. The same would apply for group sex encounters cause
it really involves everyone and not just one or two people
solo.
Even if your partner is what you would consider bad and you
take the time to teach him or her what is right then you can
not take credit for that either. If they were not willing
to learn then it wouldnt be possible to teach them. Once
again it takes you as a teacher and them as a student to learn,
again becoming a team effort.
All in all it means never kiss and tell, bragging to your
friends is not ok. I guarantee if a women finds out your
going around telling people how great you are she is either
going to dump your ass or she is going to set you straight
the next time your friends are around and that would be very
embarrassing. If two people are involved then two people
should get credit.
Written by:
A Mystic Writer and Hopeless Romantic....
All information within my articles is "my"
opinion. "My" opinions are formulated through
talking to real life people, and past relationships. Thanks
to the last ten years of community service work it has given
me the opportunity to get to know many older women and couples,
I hope I have learned from them and hope those that tried
taught me correctly. Passion happens to be "My cup
of tea" so to speak, and by no means am I telling people
to imitate me. Even I have the desire for a good hard encounter
once and awhile as well. Regardless remember that the only
person who really knows what another wants is that person
himself or herself. No one can ever speak for another accurately!
Your comments or feedback are more then welcome. If you
feel I miss something or need to clarify something then
please let me know and I will fix anything I overlook.
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