Some serious questions.... for "serious" people
I see many complaints about articles, the content, the
length, or the author always coming into that issue. Numerous
people have claimed they hate long articles. Numerous
people have claimed they hate factual articles.
My question is. If someone says they hate a long article
then why would they read it?
If someone does not like a specific author then why do they
continue to read or post comments on that authors article?
I dont know about everyone else but normally when I dont
like someone or something I do not do it or go near it or talk
to it.
I have been accused of so many things it is not funny. I stated
that I thought women were attracted to purity when they
got older and I would like to do a sex study on that to see if
it was true or not. After posting that numerous comments
came flying about slamming me and saying that I was not a
virgin and that I was just trying to get extra attention.
I am proud of my virginity and that is my right. I do not desire
to be a virgin though and anyone who can think would know
it.
I posted this question in the advice line about 20+ times
and everyone assumes it a joke. So this time I am not going
to post a question instead I am going to offer details.
I use to watch a talk show on TV about relationships and sex.
A male caller called in asking why the foreskin on his penis
would not retract like it is suppose to. The funny thing
was that I had the same problem. I didnt actually even know
at that point in time the skin was suppose to slide back.
I always thought that a cut man had an exposed head and an
uncut man did not have an exposed head.
I went to my family doctors the next day and he advised me
that I had scare tissue around the foreskin of my penis that
held it from retracting. He explained to me that if the skin
is not pulled back daily then it can over time close up and
not be able to stretch again. I was pretty embarrassed at
not knowing something like that. My parents never taught
me the proper aspects. I remember that my mother had told
me a few times to pull the skin back when bathing but I still
didnt know what the hell she was talking about.
I can not remember the actual name of the procedure but it
is done pretty regularly so I know I am not the only one who
has had this problem before. The doctor cut away some of
the skin so he could get to the scare tissue. The procedure
was suppose to only take 15 minutes so he only gave me a 30-minute
shot of pain medicine. My freaking mother had gone shopping
quickly since it was not suppose to take long. Well the procedure
ended up taking one hour and nearly thirty minutes. Because
I was young they were not allowed to administer anymore
pain medicine without the parents consent.
It was painful beyond my words can express. It has left a
scare far deeper then just the skin. My head had never been
released before therefore it was just as sensitive as when
a male is first born. It has been 6 or 7 years now and my sensitivity
is still very high. I can no longer play sports cause the
friction on my boxers when moving around a lot is far to high
and becomes painful. It is very possible that I am not even
physically capable of having sex yet. Because of my sensitivity
it is possible that the second my penis enters her vagina
it may become very painful. I know everyone says that a vagina
is soft and slippery, but even trickling water causes me
pain when in the shower.
It is embarrassing to possibly have to tell a woman I can
not have intercourse with her because of this. My doctor
and I can not figure out why I am still so sensitive. I have
seen a few guys on Adult FriendFinder post similar questions to this one
though. No one could really offer an answer though.
The few women I have allowed to try to perform oral on me did
it a little to roughly and it caused a great deal of pain.
It is because of this reason why I am more sensitive to other
peoples sexual issues. I know what it is like to be with
someone and me telling them they need to be careful and then
they dont be careful at all. I do not know for sure what it
feels like to have a really sensitive clit but I do know what
it is like to have a highly sensitive head on my penis. They
are not the same and I know that, but it does give me the ability
to actually relate to what they feel in regards to the issue.
If anyone has any suggestions on how to make a woman realize
this then I would honestly like to know. It is very possible
that I can not be sexually active yet. I do love performing
oral on a woman so I can compensate some. Honest suggestions
are more then welcome. I have posted this question several
times and I am tired of being laughed at for it.
Now to clarify a few things, I have been advised that posting
the fact I am a virgin on my profile is a turn off. I however
believe in being 100% open and honest, without those two
things I personally do not think a friendship or relationship
can exist.
At no point in time have I ever said I was not a virgin. I
think the assumption has been made because of the nature
of my articles. For instance my sexual positions article,
I wrote it cause the day before I saw two men asking about
the pros and cons of sexual positions. I looked at the
post and saw no one had given them advice so I decided to post
an article in response to it.
I have seen numerous times questions being asked about
the G-Spot and female ejaculation. I have seen numerous
times younger guys asking for advice about how to get or
be friends with older women. That is exactly why I wrote
that article I did. It was not to boast and it was not to annoy,
it was actually information that someone else had asked
for but did not get.
I have seen numerous times where people ask a question looking
for an answer or advice and instead they get a joke or flat
out made fun of. I am sure some questions are made up and might
deserve a little bit of fun. However some questions people
ask like the one I just did earlier is a serious one.
I try to keep my articles to only information I have studied
and know and many are not based of any facts they are based
off my personal experiences. Like my older women and younger
men article was based 100% off the fact I have always dated
older women and was trying to offer some helpful advice.
I remember when I first became a member here that I had it
posted in my profile that I was looking to pursue a career
as a profiler. About a month later some things were being
posted that claimed I was telling people I was a profiler,
and yet my profile said the exact opposite.
I grew up in a home with a sister who was suffering from two
forms of an eating disorder and I left school to go with her
to the day program the governor got her into. I remember
my father spending two fu***** years pleading with medical
offices to try and get my sister admitted into a hospital
before she might die (they didnt have the money to do so
and thus needed help in doing it). I regret leaving school,
but I also dont regret it cause I think family is the most
important thing in the world. I was thrilled that my father
finally got the courage to call the governor and talk to
him about it. I was thrilled even more that he helped my sister.
The point of all this is despite all the accusations about
me none of them have been proven. You are right I am a crybaby,
I have been all over Adult FriendFinder to stop people from telling out right
lies. At no point in time has anyone offered proof of me claiming
to be an actual profiler or of me claiming to not be a virgin.
An accusation without proof is harassment plain and simple.
I do not enjoy sitting here everyday listening to people
spreading false rumors about me.
I did once tell a member I was not a virgin cause they wouldnt
leave me alone. However the person I said that to was not
the person that started the rumor. I also intentionally
lied to someone saying I had copied something because I
wanted to know if they were actually a friend or not. However
I proved that I had not actually done what was claimed and
that is how I am back.
I am here to make friends and have fun. If I see someone ask
a serious question then I take the time and provide the best
answer that I can. I do not offer an opinion on all questions
or articles like many others do. I try and treat everyone
with respect unless they disrespect me.
A perfect example was an article I had posted and then I called
customer service and had it removed. The opening title
offended a great deal of people. Sadly the message of the
article was to express that people like me as we get older
have more issues to contend with on a sexual level. People
assume and expect certain things in regards to sexual practices
as we reach certain ages.
I personally care about romance and love and the woman of
my dreams. That is just my opinion though. I am interested
in doing some swinging activities when I do get into a relationship
and that is yet another of the reasons I am here. It allows
me to read and see what the swinger life is like.
I am as stated in my signature open to comments. However
those comments I am open to are about issues within an article
and not all articles. I have seen very little comments
posted that actually pertain to the article it is attached
to.
When someone asks me a question I take him or her seriously
and dont make fun of them or joke about it. They might be
joking or they might be serious and I am personally better
off as a person to assume they are being serious to.
Personally I wish Adult FriendFinder would add an advice line and hire some
experienced people to offer serious advice. I guarantee
that the question I asked at the beginning of this article
is going to get made fun of and picked on however it is a question
I am actually serious about. Before I started reading sex
books I posted a question about how to find a womans G-Spot
and numerous people laughed at me and made fun of me. That
was also a serious question, and I had to find the answer
out myself. That is why I no longer post questions.
This article is 100% my opinion! I use the I statement
a lot and that means I am the one thinking it. I am not speaking
for anyone else, only myself and my personal interests,
experiences and opinions.
A side note, I have not ever claimed to be a professional
therapist. I did some part time counseling back in school
as a work-study. I did it for awhile after as well but did
not do it on a professional basis. I do numerous volunteer
work depending on the seasons.
I am "not" looking to start a arguement. I am
only looking for the possible answers to the above questions.
These are pretty vaild questions I think.
Why would people claim to hate a author or long articles
and then continue to read them? I can not make any sense of
this. I am trying to find some honest advice.
Written by:
A Young Mystic Writer, Hopeless Romantic, Passionate
Lover, and Master Samurai
Its not about the ride, its about the finish line!
Its harder to make her genuinely laugh then it is to give
her an orgasm.
Still waters run deep, far deeper then that the eye can
see.
Just cause a person does not do something, doesnt mean
they might not know how.
All information within my articles is "my"
opinion. "My" opinions are formulated through
talking to real life people, past relationships, past
experiences, and researching/studying numerous sex
and history books.
Thanks to the last ten years of community service work it
has given me the opportunity to get to know many older women
and couples, I hope I have learned from them and hope those
that tried taught me correctly.
I am a Mystic Writer and that means helpless romantic.
According to recent studies helpless romantics are claimed
to only exist in 3% (1 in 62) of the world population.
Regardless remember that the only person who really knows
what another wants is that person himself or herself. No
one can ever truly speak for another accurately!
I am aware that the paragraphs are not correct, I space them
out because of how long the article is and helps relieve
the tension on the eyes with a bunch of words so close together.
I will take this chance to offer an apology to anyone this
or any other article I have written offends. It is not my
intention nor desires to offend anyone. However it is a
fact of life that no matter what we say or do there will always
be numerous occasions where others will disagree with
us. If that is the case then please remember that I am not
asking or forcing you to read anything I write. Please keep
your responses (if any) solely to the topic at hand. (That
means on an article to article basis).
This has just been a general information piece. No events
or names have been in direct relation to anything or anyone
particular. In the event of such a thing I can assure you
it is purely by coincedence and is not intentional. I spend
my time researching sex and world history (Feudal and medieval
to be exact).
Due to the fact I am a virgin I do not write articles about
penetration (considering I have never done it I have no
right to discuss it). If someone is a virgin it means they
have never engaged in intercourse. However a virgin can
still know a great deal about sex specially if they study
it. Just cause someone does not do something does not mean
they dont know how. In the event of penetration being
needed I have used sex toys to finish the job (vibrators,
dildos, and clitoral stimulators). For this reason I only
write opinion articles about oral sex, relationships,
and general advice.
I do not ask or encourage anyone to imitate me. My apologies
if that is what you think. I think sex is a wonderful and beautiful
thing. I love talking about it, researching it, and I love
getting a woman off. In my opinion it is one of the most
pleasureable things that exists.
This is my signature and will remain roughly the same
on every article that I write.
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